-
Majestic: Hey Hotties! I'm Majestic
-
Jessica: I'm Jessica
-
We're just having a Hungry Virginz tea party
-
with some snickerdoodles and uh, we were talking about
-
hungry virginity and you brought up Intuitive Eating and we
-
thought they were really interesting together and we just thought
-
we'd like invite you guys, you know. Here we are
-
Jessica: So maybe we should explain what Intuitive Eating is
-
for those viewers at home who are not aware of it
-
and Intuitive Eating.. oh, go for it
-
you want it, so you're eating it.
-
And that is Intuitive Eating. Really though
-
That worked out perfectly!
-
Majestic: That was so good and smart
-
Jessica: But Intuitive Eating is just like developing a really mindful
-
relationship with your body and its needs and its wants and
-
how to best take care of it is to trust it
-
and trusting it, first you have to get to know it and we're going to
-
Majestic: I'm going to mime it
-
I'm just getting to know my body
-
Jessica: Yeah, great. And so Intuitive Eating and Hungry Virginity
-
are pretty much, best friends
-
Majestic: yeah, because like being a Hungry Virgin is about
-
the celebration and reclamation of food and the journey of renegotiation
-
and also its really funny
-
Jessica: /Maybe we're going to outline the big points and just
-
as a note, a good resource for me is intuitiveeating.org
-
and it was more or less like a loose bible to me when I started
-
doing Intuitive Eating, which I have been doing for quite a few years
-
and a note from..
-
Majestic: Also I didn't know about Intuitive Eating, but I'm really
-
excited for it and a lot of the things they talk about are really straight forwward
-
and totally like, principles of Hungry Virginity too and but also we
-
were talking about how like any kind of big framework like about dealing
-
with healthy eating or disordered eating is not going to work for everybody in all of the ways
-
I feel like it had been important to me to bring my own politics to Intuitive Eating
-
because not everything is going to work for everyone and their experience
-
with food or their history with food so you just have to make this work for you
-
and bring your own knowledge and experience to it
-
Jessica: Totally. So our big points are:
-
Reclamation and the Celebration of Food
-
Honoring Your Hunger and Making Peace With Food
-
Rejecting Diet Mentality
-
Challenging Food Police
-
Respecting Your Fullness
-
Discovering Pleasure and Satisfaction From Food
-
Respecting Your Hot Bod
-
Majestic: Doing a lot of that today
-
And also Honoring Your Feelings and Experiences Around Emotional Eating
-
We changed that last one
-
Jessica: and we didn't include some
-
Majestic: Yeah we didn't include some because we thought they were sort of
-
Jessica: Not for us
-
but we will link you underneath this video with all the important things
-
other rad fatties have said about Intuitive Eating and also the site
-
we got this from so if you choose to bring in those other ones into your lifestyle, you can do that
-
Majestic: So the first thing is, I guess we could just talk about honoring your hunger
-
I'm doing that right now. Do you want to talk about that?
-
Jessica: yes thank you. Honoring your hunger for me meant
-
understanding that I'm a rageful bitch, but a lot of that was tied to Hanger
-
and when you're living in this diet centric world where you're taught
-
to restrict and deny and do all these things that keep you hungry
-
because that hunger is supposed to like give you more moral standing
-
in the world and its supposed to make you a good person and show that you
-
have restraint and all these "great" ridiculous things when really
-
hunger hurts
-
Majestic: Hunger is something everyone experiences
-
Majestic: oh god oh god, we had some Hungry Virgin technical difficulties just now
-
Jessica: I hope we can put those two together
-
Majestic: We will be able to...hopefully
-
Jessica: Alright
-
Majestic: Come Hell or high water
-
Jessica: Okaaaayyy
-
Majestic: Wild horses couldn't stop me
-
Jessica: Alright well back on topic huh?
-
Majestic: Okay another thing that is important in all this, that I really want to address
-
in Challenging the Food Police is people like to tell people of all body types
-
what they should be putting in their bodies or what they shouldn't
-
be putting in their body or that the thing they're putting in their body is
-
going to make them fat or whatever and I think that its really important
-
to challenge those people and those systems. You know like
-
mass media and just realize that like is complicated when you're telling
-
someone what to put in their body that the things we put in our bodies are
-
complicated by class, our race, our cultural background, our eating habits, our
-
potential disordered eating. But also in general its super wack and not cool to
-
do that..
-
Jessica: Yeah mind your own business
-
Jessica: Okay lets move on to respecting fullness which is like, a big thing
-
because your body knows when its had enough and sometimes
-
for us who have eyes that are bigger than our stomach, we want to keep eating
-
and we, though for me, because I also do this where I eat past fullness
-
because of how I was raised and that is a class thing for me
-
if you can't afford food and you don't know when you'll eat next
-
you finish everything even if you're full, you just eat it cus it's there
-
if you have a fridge, you don't need to eat it when you don't want to or can't
-
Majestic: I always do that too where I take so much more than I can eat
-
because like, I don't know I can never just eat as much as I want
-
Jessica: its okay honey
-
Majestic: Its really hard sometimes though
-
and uh, I will like have half a plate of food left and I totally grew up poor
-
and I'll do that thing where I'm like "oh my god"
-
but also part of my thing is that I don't have to finish food, that
-
is something I don't have to do now and no one can tell me to do that
-
no one can expect that of me and if I can save it, great
-
but I don't need to do that
-
Jessica: Totally. Also I don't know where this is on our list but
-
a lot of people, when I talk to them about Intuitive Eating think
-
"well Jessica what if I just like, never stop eating. What if that's a thing?
-
What if my body just never finds a full point?"
-
and that is a valid question because when I started Intuitive Eating
-
no small village or child or abandoned building was safe from me.
-
I ate everything in my path, and most of it was a potato based thing or cheese based thing
-
and just went buckwild on any dairy or potato that you put in front of me
-
I didn't eat a vegetable for like, I don't know how long.
-
And that was something I did. And that's a possibility for you as well
-
But there will be a point where you're like "you know what? I would like a vegetable now"
-
And then you learn to have a diverse diet and that is the light at the end of the tunnel
-
and that is the goal. To eat what your body needs and wants because
-
you were born with all the tools you need
-
and to also know that you will get to a point where you want diversity in your diet
-
because that is the resting place for a lot of people. But also not for a lot of people and
-
it that's not your resting point, don't shame yourself.
-
You're fine, everybody's fine
-
Majestic: And I think throughout this process its just really important to
-
remember to love yourself. Respect your body and have love for it
-
Jessica: And the process
-
Majestic: Recognize that this process is hard and have compassion for yourself
-
If you're still engaging in disordered eating, beating yourself up about it
-
and calling yourself names is just going to make it worse.
-
Listen to those internal narratives that you have and try to stop them
-
Be like, "No I love my body, I love myself and I'm doing the best that I can
-
and today was a hard day." That's really important to
-
Jessica: And that ties into Emotional Eating, which is a big big one for a lot
-
of people and there is a lot of varied opinions on Emotional Eating
-
and whether or not that is like a thing that you should get rid of your life
-
or not. My personal opinion is Emotional Eating is a fact of life and you can
-
totally get comfort from food at times. It will not solve
-
the root of the issue but it will sate you and it will give you some sense of comfort
-
That is why they call it Comfort Food
-
because there is reality to that
-
Majestic: I think that people use food for so many reasons.
-
To celebrate, when they're maybe feeling sad.
-
I know as soon as Winter happens, I just want to eat all the carbs ever
-
preferably with cheese on them
-
Jessica: That's why I married you
-
Majestic: Thank you. Aw shucks
-
And realizing that those things are not. Like I can engage in Emotional Eating
-
without it being disordered now and that has been really positive for me
-
and I think that I'll never fully get rid of Emotional Eating
-
because everything is connected and honoring that is just really important
-
And the last thing would be Discovering the Satisfaction and Pleasure of Food
-
That's what being a Hungry Virgin is all about
-
Fuck, food is delicious
-
All kinds of food
-
Jessica: There will be family dinners of ours where the entire meal
-
we'll just celebrate how fucking delicious that meal is, what
-
went into creating that meal and that it was created with love
-
and teamwork and that it tastes fucking delicious
-
and then we talk about ways we could have made it better
-
and then we talk about what we'll eat later and we celebrate that and we
-
feel good about it and its not an issue
-
It feels unreal to be in a situation where I can be with people and eat
-
what I want and eat it how I want it and just be
-
stoked that this isn't a heavy situation for me
-
No pun intended ;)
-
But there is pleasure in food
-
Majestic: Yeah and we all have a fucked up relationship with food
-
Maybe that's a fucked up overstatement.
-
I'm not trying to homogenize everybody's experiences
-
but our relationships with food and our bodies are complicated
-
and this one way that maybe things can be easier or feel better
-
for some of you. So thank you for joining us on this journey
-
And I hope that it was informative and I hope that if people are
-
interested in this they'll go to get their own resources and start talking about it
-
Jessica: Or ask us questions, because we're here
-
Majestic: Yeah. Eating snickerdoodles
-
Jessica: Okay
-
Majestic: We love you!! Bye!
-
Majestic: Great.Ow my ass!
-
Jessica: (moans) Ow! My ass!
