Majestic: Hey Hotties! I'm Majestic Jessica: I'm Jessica We're just having a Hungry Virginz tea party with some snickerdoodles and uh, we were talking about hungry virginity and you brought up Intuitive Eating and we thought they were really interesting together and we just thought we'd like invite you guys, you know. Here we are Jessica: So maybe we should explain what Intuitive Eating is for those viewers at home who are not aware of it and Intuitive Eating.. oh, go for it you want it, so you're eating it. And that is Intuitive Eating. Really though That worked out perfectly! Majestic: That was so good and smart Jessica: But Intuitive Eating is just like developing a really mindful relationship with your body and its needs and its wants and how to best take care of it is to trust it and trusting it, first you have to get to know it and we're going to Majestic: I'm going to mime it I'm just getting to know my body Jessica: Yeah, great. And so Intuitive Eating and Hungry Virginity are pretty much, best friends Majestic: yeah, because like being a Hungry Virgin is about the celebration and reclamation of food and the journey of renegotiation and also its really funny Jessica: /Maybe we're going to outline the big points and just as a note, a good resource for me is intuitiveeating.org and it was more or less like a loose bible to me when I started doing Intuitive Eating, which I have been doing for quite a few years and a note from.. Majestic: Also I didn't know about Intuitive Eating, but I'm really excited for it and a lot of the things they talk about are really straight forwward and totally like, principles of Hungry Virginity too and but also we were talking about how like any kind of big framework like about dealing with healthy eating or disordered eating is not going to work for everybody in all of the ways I feel like it had been important to me to bring my own politics to Intuitive Eating because not everything is going to work for everyone and their experience with food or their history with food so you just have to make this work for you and bring your own knowledge and experience to it Jessica: Totally. So our big points are: Reclamation and the Celebration of Food Honoring Your Hunger and Making Peace With Food Rejecting Diet Mentality Challenging Food Police Respecting Your Fullness Discovering Pleasure and Satisfaction From Food Respecting Your Hot Bod Majestic: Doing a lot of that today And also Honoring Your Feelings and Experiences Around Emotional Eating We changed that last one Jessica: and we didn't include some Majestic: Yeah we didn't include some because we thought they were sort of Jessica: Not for us but we will link you underneath this video with all the important things other rad fatties have said about Intuitive Eating and also the site we got this from so if you choose to bring in those other ones into your lifestyle, you can do that Majestic: So the first thing is, I guess we could just talk about honoring your hunger I'm doing that right now. Do you want to talk about that? Jessica: yes thank you. Honoring your hunger for me meant understanding that I'm a rageful bitch, but a lot of that was tied to Hanger and when you're living in this diet centric world where you're taught to restrict and deny and do all these things that keep you hungry because that hunger is supposed to like give you more moral standing in the world and its supposed to make you a good person and show that you have restraint and all these "great" ridiculous things when really hunger hurts Majestic: Hunger is something everyone experiences Majestic: oh god oh god, we had some Hungry Virgin technical difficulties just now Jessica: I hope we can put those two together Majestic: We will be able to...hopefully Jessica: Alright Majestic: Come Hell or high water Jessica: Okaaaayyy Majestic: Wild horses couldn't stop me Jessica: Alright well back on topic huh? Majestic: Okay another thing that is important in all this, that I really want to address in Challenging the Food Police is people like to tell people of all body types what they should be putting in their bodies or what they shouldn't be putting in their body or that the thing they're putting in their body is going to make them fat or whatever and I think that its really important to challenge those people and those systems. You know like mass media and just realize that like is complicated when you're telling someone what to put in their body that the things we put in our bodies are complicated by class, our race, our cultural background, our eating habits, our potential disordered eating. But also in general its super wack and not cool to do that.. Jessica: Yeah mind your own business Jessica: Okay lets move on to respecting fullness which is like, a big thing because your body knows when its had enough and sometimes for us who have eyes that are bigger than our stomach, we want to keep eating and we, though for me, because I also do this where I eat past fullness because of how I was raised and that is a class thing for me if you can't afford food and you don't know when you'll eat next you finish everything even if you're full, you just eat it cus it's there if you have a fridge, you don't need to eat it when you don't want to or can't Majestic: I always do that too where I take so much more than I can eat because like, I don't know I can never just eat as much as I want Jessica: its okay honey Majestic: Its really hard sometimes though and uh, I will like have half a plate of food left and I totally grew up poor and I'll do that thing where I'm like "oh my god" but also part of my thing is that I don't have to finish food, that is something I don't have to do now and no one can tell me to do that no one can expect that of me and if I can save it, great but I don't need to do that Jessica: Totally. Also I don't know where this is on our list but a lot of people, when I talk to them about Intuitive Eating think "well Jessica what if I just like, never stop eating. What if that's a thing? What if my body just never finds a full point?" and that is a valid question because when I started Intuitive Eating no small village or child or abandoned building was safe from me. I ate everything in my path, and most of it was a potato based thing or cheese based thing and just went buckwild on any dairy or potato that you put in front of me I didn't eat a vegetable for like, I don't know how long. And that was something I did. And that's a possibility for you as well But there will be a point where you're like "you know what? I would like a vegetable now" And then you learn to have a diverse diet and that is the light at the end of the tunnel and that is the goal. To eat what your body needs and wants because you were born with all the tools you need and to also know that you will get to a point where you want diversity in your diet because that is the resting place for a lot of people. But also not for a lot of people and it that's not your resting point, don't shame yourself. You're fine, everybody's fine Majestic: And I think throughout this process its just really important to remember to love yourself. Respect your body and have love for it Jessica: And the process Majestic: Recognize that this process is hard and have compassion for yourself If you're still engaging in disordered eating, beating yourself up about it and calling yourself names is just going to make it worse. Listen to those internal narratives that you have and try to stop them Be like, "No I love my body, I love myself and I'm doing the best that I can and today was a hard day." That's really important to Jessica: And that ties into Emotional Eating, which is a big big one for a lot of people and there is a lot of varied opinions on Emotional Eating and whether or not that is like a thing that you should get rid of your life or not. My personal opinion is Emotional Eating is a fact of life and you can totally get comfort from food at times. It will not solve the root of the issue but it will sate you and it will give you some sense of comfort That is why they call it Comfort Food because there is reality to that Majestic: I think that people use food for so many reasons. To celebrate, when they're maybe feeling sad. I know as soon as Winter happens, I just want to eat all the carbs ever preferably with cheese on them Jessica: That's why I married you Majestic: Thank you. Aw shucks And realizing that those things are not. Like I can engage in Emotional Eating without it being disordered now and that has been really positive for me and I think that I'll never fully get rid of Emotional Eating because everything is connected and honoring that is just really important And the last thing would be Discovering the Satisfaction and Pleasure of Food That's what being a Hungry Virgin is all about Fuck, food is delicious All kinds of food Jessica: There will be family dinners of ours where the entire meal we'll just celebrate how fucking delicious that meal is, what went into creating that meal and that it was created with love and teamwork and that it tastes fucking delicious and then we talk about ways we could have made it better and then we talk about what we'll eat later and we celebrate that and we feel good about it and its not an issue It feels unreal to be in a situation where I can be with people and eat what I want and eat it how I want it and just be stoked that this isn't a heavy situation for me No pun intended ;) But there is pleasure in food Majestic: Yeah and we all have a fucked up relationship with food Maybe that's a fucked up overstatement. I'm not trying to homogenize everybody's experiences but our relationships with food and our bodies are complicated and this one way that maybe things can be easier or feel better for some of you. So thank you for joining us on this journey And I hope that it was informative and I hope that if people are interested in this they'll go to get their own resources and start talking about it Jessica: Or ask us questions, because we're here Majestic: Yeah. Eating snickerdoodles Jessica: Okay Majestic: We love you!! Bye! Majestic: Great.Ow my ass! Jessica: (moans) Ow! My ass!