WEBVTT 00:00:04.571 --> 00:00:07.241 Majestic: Hey Hotties! I'm Majestic 00:00:07.241 --> 00:00:08.742 Jessica: I'm Jessica 00:00:08.742 --> 00:00:11.311 We're just having a Hungry Virginz tea party 00:00:11.311 --> 00:00:16.383 with some snickerdoodles and uh, we were talking about 00:00:16.383 --> 00:00:21.288 hungry virginity and you brought up Intuitive Eating and we 00:00:21.288 --> 00:00:26.059 thought they were really interesting together and we just thought 00:00:26.059 --> 00:00:30.631 we'd like invite you guys, you know. Here we are 00:00:30.631 --> 00:00:37.004 Jessica: So maybe we should explain what Intuitive Eating is 00:00:37.004 --> 00:00:40.173 for those viewers at home who are not aware of it 00:00:40.173 --> 00:00:43.844 and Intuitive Eating.. oh, go for it 00:00:43.844 --> 00:00:47.247 you want it, so you're eating it. 00:00:47.247 --> 00:00:50.684 And that is Intuitive Eating. Really though 00:00:50.684 --> 00:00:53.053 That worked out perfectly! 00:00:53.053 --> 00:00:54.488 Majestic: That was so good and smart 00:00:54.488 --> 00:00:58.992 Jessica: But Intuitive Eating is just like developing a really mindful 00:00:58.992 --> 00:01:02.162 relationship with your body and its needs and its wants and 00:01:02.162 --> 00:01:04.932 how to best take care of it is to trust it 00:01:04.932 --> 00:01:13.373 and trusting it, first you have to get to know it and we're going to 00:01:13.373 --> 00:01:18.445 Majestic: I'm going to mime it 00:01:18.445 --> 00:01:20.280 I'm just getting to know my body 00:01:20.280 --> 00:01:24.985 Jessica: Yeah, great. And so Intuitive Eating and Hungry Virginity 00:01:24.985 --> 00:01:27.988 are pretty much, best friends 00:01:27.988 --> 00:01:30.490 Majestic: yeah, because like being a Hungry Virgin is about 00:01:30.490 --> 00:01:35.796 the celebration and reclamation of food and the journey of renegotiation 00:01:35.796 --> 00:01:40.334 and also its really funny 00:01:40.334 --> 00:01:44.671 Jessica: /Maybe we're going to outline the big points and just 00:01:44.671 --> 00:01:51.578 as a note, a good resource for me is intuitiveeating.org 00:01:51.578 --> 00:01:56.450 and it was more or less like a loose bible to me when I started 00:01:56.450 --> 00:02:01.655 doing Intuitive Eating, which I have been doing for quite a few years 00:02:01.655 --> 00:02:04.324 and a note from.. 00:02:04.324 --> 00:02:08.362 Majestic: Also I didn't know about Intuitive Eating, but I'm really 00:02:08.362 --> 00:02:11.832 excited for it and a lot of the things they talk about are really straight forwward 00:02:11.832 --> 00:02:18.705 and totally like, principles of Hungry Virginity too and but also we 00:02:18.705 --> 00:02:24.011 were talking about how like any kind of big framework like about dealing 00:02:24.011 --> 00:02:30.684 with healthy eating or disordered eating is not going to work for everybody in all of the ways 00:02:30.684 --> 00:02:35.956 I feel like it had been important to me to bring my own politics to Intuitive Eating 00:02:35.956 --> 00:02:39.493 because not everything is going to work for everyone and their experience 00:02:39.493 --> 00:02:45.432 with food or their history with food so you just have to make this work for you 00:02:45.432 --> 00:02:48.168 and bring your own knowledge and experience to it 00:02:48.168 --> 00:02:53.240 Jessica: Totally. So our big points are: 00:02:53.240 --> 00:02:56.243 Reclamation and the Celebration of Food 00:02:56.243 --> 00:03:00.681 Honoring Your Hunger and Making Peace With Food 00:03:00.681 --> 00:03:02.582 Rejecting Diet Mentality 00:03:02.582 --> 00:03:05.285 Challenging Food Police 00:03:05.285 --> 00:03:10.624 Respecting Your Fullness 00:03:10.624 --> 00:03:14.594 Discovering Pleasure and Satisfaction From Food 00:03:14.594 --> 00:03:17.431 Respecting Your Hot Bod 00:03:17.431 --> 00:03:20.967 Majestic: Doing a lot of that today 00:03:20.967 --> 00:03:27.174 And also Honoring Your Feelings and Experiences Around Emotional Eating 00:03:27.174 --> 00:03:29.476 We changed that last one 00:03:29.476 --> 00:03:31.111 Jessica: and we didn't include some 00:03:31.111 --> 00:03:34.548 Majestic: Yeah we didn't include some because we thought they were sort of 00:03:34.548 --> 00:03:36.516 Jessica: Not for us 00:03:36.516 --> 00:03:40.954 but we will link you underneath this video with all the important things 00:03:40.954 --> 00:03:46.993 other rad fatties have said about Intuitive Eating and also the site 00:03:46.993 --> 00:03:54.267 we got this from so if you choose to bring in those other ones into your lifestyle, you can do that 00:03:54.267 --> 00:04:03.210 Majestic: So the first thing is, I guess we could just talk about honoring your hunger 00:04:03.210 --> 00:04:07.280 I'm doing that right now. Do you want to talk about that? 00:04:07.280 --> 00:04:10.617 Jessica: yes thank you. Honoring your hunger for me meant 00:04:10.617 --> 00:04:18.692 understanding that I'm a rageful bitch, but a lot of that was tied to Hanger 00:04:18.692 --> 00:04:27.768 and when you're living in this diet centric world where you're taught 00:04:27.768 --> 00:04:33.373 to restrict and deny and do all these things that keep you hungry 00:04:33.373 --> 00:04:42.449 because that hunger is supposed to like give you more moral standing 00:04:42.449 --> 00:04:45.285 in the world and its supposed to make you a good person and show that you 00:04:45.285 --> 00:04:49.189 have restraint and all these "great" ridiculous things when really 00:04:49.189 --> 00:04:52.025 hunger hurts 00:04:52.025 --> 00:04:54.728 Majestic: Hunger is something everyone experiences 00:04:54.728 --> 00:04:59.466 Majestic: oh god oh god, we had some Hungry Virgin technical difficulties just now 00:04:59.466 --> 00:05:01.034 Jessica: I hope we can put those two together 00:05:01.034 --> 00:05:02.202 Majestic: We will be able to...hopefully 00:05:02.202 --> 00:05:03.703 Jessica: Alright 00:05:03.703 --> 00:05:04.938 Majestic: Come Hell or high water 00:05:04.938 --> 00:05:06.072 Jessica: Okaaaayyy 00:05:06.072 --> 00:05:06.973 Majestic: Wild horses couldn't stop me 00:05:06.973 --> 00:05:09.042 Jessica: Alright well back on topic huh? 00:05:09.042 --> 00:05:14.915 Majestic: Okay another thing that is important in all this, that I really want to address 00:05:14.915 --> 00:05:20.787 in Challenging the Food Police is people like to tell people of all body types 00:05:20.787 --> 00:05:22.656 what they should be putting in their bodies or what they shouldn't 00:05:22.656 --> 00:05:25.392 be putting in their body or that the thing they're putting in their body is 00:05:25.392 --> 00:05:28.628 going to make them fat or whatever and I think that its really important 00:05:28.628 --> 00:05:31.898 to challenge those people and those systems. You know like 00:05:31.898 --> 00:05:39.673 mass media and just realize that like is complicated when you're telling 00:05:39.673 --> 00:05:42.909 someone what to put in their body that the things we put in our bodies are 00:05:42.909 --> 00:05:49.049 complicated by class, our race, our cultural background, our eating habits, our 00:05:49.049 --> 00:05:53.887 potential disordered eating. But also in general its super wack and not cool to 00:05:53.887 --> 00:05:54.988 do that.. 00:05:54.988 --> 00:05:56.056 Jessica: Yeah mind your own business 00:05:56.056 --> 00:06:02.562 Jessica: Okay lets move on to respecting fullness which is like, a big thing 00:06:02.562 --> 00:06:09.336 because your body knows when its had enough and sometimes 00:06:09.336 --> 00:06:18.745 for us who have eyes that are bigger than our stomach, we want to keep eating 00:06:18.745 --> 00:06:25.986 and we, though for me, because I also do this where I eat past fullness 00:06:25.986 --> 00:06:34.160 because of how I was raised and that is a class thing for me 00:06:34.160 --> 00:06:38.198 if you can't afford food and you don't know when you'll eat next 00:06:38.198 --> 00:06:43.637 you finish everything even if you're full, you just eat it cus it's there 00:06:43.637 --> 00:06:53.914 if you have a fridge, you don't need to eat it when you don't want to or can't 00:06:53.914 --> 00:07:00.487 Majestic: I always do that too where I take so much more than I can eat 00:07:00.487 --> 00:07:02.956 because like, I don't know I can never just eat as much as I want 00:07:02.956 --> 00:07:04.891 Jessica: its okay honey 00:07:04.891 --> 00:07:09.329 Majestic: Its really hard sometimes though 00:07:09.329 --> 00:07:12.165 and uh, I will like have half a plate of food left and I totally grew up poor 00:07:12.165 --> 00:07:15.335 and I'll do that thing where I'm like "oh my god" 00:07:15.335 --> 00:07:21.241 but also part of my thing is that I don't have to finish food, that 00:07:21.241 --> 00:07:25.378 is something I don't have to do now and no one can tell me to do that 00:07:25.378 --> 00:07:30.317 no one can expect that of me and if I can save it, great 00:07:30.317 --> 00:07:32.686 but I don't need to do that 00:07:32.686 --> 00:07:39.893 Jessica: Totally. Also I don't know where this is on our list but 00:07:39.893 --> 00:07:43.263 a lot of people, when I talk to them about Intuitive Eating think 00:07:43.263 --> 00:07:48.468 "well Jessica what if I just like, never stop eating. What if that's a thing? 00:07:48.468 --> 00:07:52.439 What if my body just never finds a full point?" 00:07:52.439 --> 00:08:00.914 and that is a valid question because when I started Intuitive Eating 00:08:00.914 --> 00:08:06.219 no small village or child or abandoned building was safe from me. 00:08:06.219 --> 00:08:17.664 I ate everything in my path, and most of it was a potato based thing or cheese based thing 00:08:17.664 --> 00:08:23.837 and just went buckwild on any dairy or potato that you put in front of me 00:08:23.837 --> 00:08:28.975 I didn't eat a vegetable for like, I don't know how long. 00:08:28.975 --> 00:08:34.714 And that was something I did. And that's a possibility for you as well 00:08:34.714 --> 00:08:40.520 But there will be a point where you're like "you know what? I would like a vegetable now" 00:08:40.520 --> 00:08:48.061 And then you learn to have a diverse diet and that is the light at the end of the tunnel 00:08:48.061 --> 00:08:55.668 and that is the goal. To eat what your body needs and wants because 00:08:55.668 --> 00:08:58.705 you were born with all the tools you need 00:08:58.705 --> 00:09:07.247 and to also know that you will get to a point where you want diversity in your diet 00:09:07.247 --> 00:09:12.852 because that is the resting place for a lot of people. But also not for a lot of people and 00:09:12.852 --> 00:09:16.156 it that's not your resting point, don't shame yourself. 00:09:16.156 --> 00:09:18.725 You're fine, everybody's fine 00:09:20.427 --> 00:09:25.131 Majestic: And I think throughout this process its just really important to 00:09:25.131 --> 00:09:27.634 remember to love yourself. Respect your body and have love for it 00:09:27.634 --> 00:09:29.536 Jessica: And the process 00:09:29.536 --> 00:09:33.039 Majestic: Recognize that this process is hard and have compassion for yourself 00:09:33.039 --> 00:09:35.375 If you're still engaging in disordered eating, beating yourself up about it 00:09:35.375 --> 00:09:37.977 and calling yourself names is just going to make it worse. 00:09:37.977 --> 00:09:41.314 Listen to those internal narratives that you have and try to stop them 00:09:41.314 --> 00:09:45.685 Be like, "No I love my body, I love myself and I'm doing the best that I can 00:09:45.685 --> 00:09:49.189 and today was a hard day." That's really important to 00:09:49.189 --> 00:09:54.661 Jessica: And that ties into Emotional Eating, which is a big big one for a lot 00:09:54.661 --> 00:09:59.466 of people and there is a lot of varied opinions on Emotional Eating 00:09:59.466 --> 00:10:03.703 and whether or not that is like a thing that you should get rid of your life 00:10:03.703 --> 00:10:11.544 or not. My personal opinion is Emotional Eating is a fact of life and you can 00:10:11.544 --> 00:10:16.983 totally get comfort from food at times. It will not solve 00:10:16.983 --> 00:10:24.491 the root of the issue but it will sate you and it will give you some sense of comfort 00:10:24.491 --> 00:10:26.893 That is why they call it Comfort Food 00:10:26.893 --> 00:10:29.229 because there is reality to that 00:10:29.229 --> 00:10:31.598 Majestic: I think that people use food for so many reasons. 00:10:31.598 --> 00:10:33.500 To celebrate, when they're maybe feeling sad. 00:10:33.500 --> 00:10:37.036 I know as soon as Winter happens, I just want to eat all the carbs ever 00:10:37.036 --> 00:10:39.873 preferably with cheese on them 00:10:39.873 --> 00:10:41.174 Jessica: That's why I married you 00:10:41.174 --> 00:10:44.477 Majestic: Thank you. Aw shucks 00:10:44.477 --> 00:10:49.816 And realizing that those things are not. Like I can engage in Emotional Eating 00:10:49.816 --> 00:10:54.387 without it being disordered now and that has been really positive for me 00:10:54.387 --> 00:10:57.390 and I think that I'll never fully get rid of Emotional Eating 00:10:57.390 --> 00:11:02.128 because everything is connected and honoring that is just really important 00:11:02.128 --> 00:11:07.233 And the last thing would be Discovering the Satisfaction and Pleasure of Food 00:11:07.233 --> 00:11:09.302 That's what being a Hungry Virgin is all about 00:11:09.302 --> 00:11:11.504 Fuck, food is delicious 00:11:11.504 --> 00:11:13.339 All kinds of food 00:11:13.339 --> 00:11:16.976 Jessica: There will be family dinners of ours where the entire meal 00:11:16.976 --> 00:11:23.316 we'll just celebrate how fucking delicious that meal is, what 00:11:23.316 --> 00:11:27.887 went into creating that meal and that it was created with love 00:11:27.887 --> 00:11:32.625 and teamwork and that it tastes fucking delicious 00:11:32.625 --> 00:11:34.994 and then we talk about ways we could have made it better 00:11:34.994 --> 00:11:40.300 and then we talk about what we'll eat later and we celebrate that and we 00:11:40.300 --> 00:11:46.973 feel good about it and its not an issue 00:11:46.973 --> 00:11:53.313 It feels unreal to be in a situation where I can be with people and eat 00:11:53.313 --> 00:11:56.549 what I want and eat it how I want it and just be 00:11:56.549 --> 00:12:02.589 stoked that this isn't a heavy situation for me 00:12:02.589 --> 00:12:06.025 No pun intended ;) 00:12:06.025 --> 00:12:10.096 But there is pleasure in food 00:12:10.096 --> 00:12:15.602 Majestic: Yeah and we all have a fucked up relationship with food 00:12:15.602 --> 00:12:18.238 Maybe that's a fucked up overstatement. 00:12:18.238 --> 00:12:21.741 I'm not trying to homogenize everybody's experiences 00:12:21.741 --> 00:12:28.181 but our relationships with food and our bodies are complicated 00:12:28.181 --> 00:12:32.118 and this one way that maybe things can be easier or feel better 00:12:32.118 --> 00:12:36.923 for some of you. So thank you for joining us on this journey 00:12:36.923 --> 00:12:40.159 And I hope that it was informative and I hope that if people are 00:12:40.159 --> 00:12:43.763 interested in this they'll go to get their own resources and start talking about it 00:12:43.763 --> 00:12:47.033 Jessica: Or ask us questions, because we're here 00:12:47.033 --> 00:12:49.102 Majestic: Yeah. Eating snickerdoodles 00:12:49.102 --> 00:12:50.103 Jessica: Okay 00:12:50.103 --> 00:12:53.740 Majestic: We love you!! Bye! 00:12:53.740 --> 00:12:56.175 Majestic: Great.Ow my ass! 00:12:56.175 --> 99:59:59.999 Jessica: (moans) Ow! My ass!