Majestic: Hey Hotties! I'm Majestic
Jessica: I'm Jessica
We're just having a Hungry Virginz tea party
with some snickerdoodles and uh, we were talking about
hungry virginity and you brought up Intuitive Eating and we
thought they were really interesting together and we just thought
we'd like invite you guys, you know. Here we are
Jessica: So maybe we should explain what Intuitive Eating is
for those viewers at home who are not aware of it
and Intuitive Eating.. oh, go for it
you want it, so you're eating it.
And that is Intuitive Eating. Really though
That worked out perfectly!
Majestic: That was so good and smart
Jessica: But Intuitive Eating is just like developing a really mindful
relationship with your body and its needs and its wants and
how to best take care of it is to trust it
and trusting it, first you have to get to know it and we're going to
Majestic: I'm going to mime it
I'm just getting to know my body
Jessica: Yeah, great. And so Intuitive Eating and Hungry Virginity
are pretty much, best friends
Majestic: yeah, because like being a Hungry Virgin is about
the celebration and reclamation of food and the journey of renegotiation
and also its really funny
Jessica: /Maybe we're going to outline the big points and just
as a note, a good resource for me is intuitiveeating.org
and it was more or less like a loose bible to me when I started
doing Intuitive Eating, which I have been doing for quite a few years
and a note from..
Majestic: Also I didn't know about Intuitive Eating, but I'm really
excited for it and a lot of the things they talk about are really straight forwward
and totally like, principles of Hungry Virginity too and but also we
were talking about how like any kind of big framework like about dealing
with healthy eating or disordered eating is not going to work for everybody in all of the ways
I feel like it had been important to me to bring my own politics to Intuitive Eating
because not everything is going to work for everyone and their experience
with food or their history with food so you just have to make this work for you
and bring your own knowledge and experience to it
Jessica: Totally. So our big points are:
Reclamation and the Celebration of Food
Honoring Your Hunger and Making Peace With Food
Rejecting Diet Mentality
Challenging Food Police
Respecting Your Fullness
Discovering Pleasure and Satisfaction From Food
Respecting Your Hot Bod
Majestic: Doing a lot of that today
And also Honoring Your Feelings and Experiences Around Emotional Eating
We changed that last one
Jessica: and we didn't include some
Majestic: Yeah we didn't include some because we thought they were sort of
Jessica: Not for us
but we will link you underneath this video with all the important things
other rad fatties have said about Intuitive Eating and also the site
we got this from so if you choose to bring in those other ones into your lifestyle, you can do that
Majestic: So the first thing is, I guess we could just talk about honoring your hunger
I'm doing that right now. Do you want to talk about that?
Jessica: yes thank you. Honoring your hunger for me meant
understanding that I'm a rageful bitch, but a lot of that was tied to Hanger
and when you're living in this diet centric world where you're taught
to restrict and deny and do all these things that keep you hungry
because that hunger is supposed to like give you more moral standing
in the world and its supposed to make you a good person and show that you
have restraint and all these "great" ridiculous things when really
hunger hurts
Majestic: Hunger is something everyone experiences
Majestic: oh god oh god, we had some Hungry Virgin technical difficulties just now
Jessica: I hope we can put those two together
Majestic: We will be able to...hopefully
Jessica: Alright
Majestic: Come Hell or high water
Jessica: Okaaaayyy
Majestic: Wild horses couldn't stop me
Jessica: Alright well back on topic huh?
Majestic: Okay another thing that is important in all this, that I really want to address
in Challenging the Food Police is people like to tell people of all body types
what they should be putting in their bodies or what they shouldn't
be putting in their body or that the thing they're putting in their body is
going to make them fat or whatever and I think that its really important
to challenge those people and those systems. You know like
mass media and just realize that like is complicated when you're telling
someone what to put in their body that the things we put in our bodies are
complicated by class, our race, our cultural background, our eating habits, our
potential disordered eating. But also in general its super wack and not cool to
do that..
Jessica: Yeah mind your own business
Jessica: Okay lets move on to respecting fullness which is like, a big thing
because your body knows when its had enough and sometimes
for us who have eyes that are bigger than our stomach, we want to keep eating
and we, though for me, because I also do this where I eat past fullness
because of how I was raised and that is a class thing for me
if you can't afford food and you don't know when you'll eat next
you finish everything even if you're full, you just eat it cus it's there
if you have a fridge, you don't need to eat it when you don't want to or can't
Majestic: I always do that too where I take so much more than I can eat
because like, I don't know I can never just eat as much as I want
Jessica: its okay honey
Majestic: Its really hard sometimes though
and uh, I will like have half a plate of food left and I totally grew up poor
and I'll do that thing where I'm like "oh my god"
but also part of my thing is that I don't have to finish food, that
is something I don't have to do now and no one can tell me to do that
no one can expect that of me and if I can save it, great
but I don't need to do that
Jessica: Totally. Also I don't know where this is on our list but
a lot of people, when I talk to them about Intuitive Eating think
"well Jessica what if I just like, never stop eating. What if that's a thing?
What if my body just never finds a full point?"
and that is a valid question because when I started Intuitive Eating
no small village or child or abandoned building was safe from me.
I ate everything in my path, and most of it was a potato based thing or cheese based thing
and just went buckwild on any dairy or potato that you put in front of me
I didn't eat a vegetable for like, I don't know how long.
And that was something I did. And that's a possibility for you as well
But there will be a point where you're like "you know what? I would like a vegetable now"
And then you learn to have a diverse diet and that is the light at the end of the tunnel
and that is the goal. To eat what your body needs and wants because
you were born with all the tools you need
and to also know that you will get to a point where you want diversity in your diet
because that is the resting place for a lot of people. But also not for a lot of people and
it that's not your resting point, don't shame yourself.
You're fine, everybody's fine
Majestic: And I think throughout this process its just really important to
remember to love yourself. Respect your body and have love for it
Jessica: And the process
Majestic: Recognize that this process is hard and have compassion for yourself
If you're still engaging in disordered eating, beating yourself up about it
and calling yourself names is just going to make it worse.
Listen to those internal narratives that you have and try to stop them
Be like, "No I love my body, I love myself and I'm doing the best that I can
and today was a hard day." That's really important to
Jessica: And that ties into Emotional Eating, which is a big big one for a lot
of people and there is a lot of varied opinions on Emotional Eating
and whether or not that is like a thing that you should get rid of your life
or not. My personal opinion is Emotional Eating is a fact of life and you can
totally get comfort from food at times. It will not solve
the root of the issue but it will sate you and it will give you some sense of comfort
That is why they call it Comfort Food
because there is reality to that
Majestic: I think that people use food for so many reasons.
To celebrate, when they're maybe feeling sad.
I know as soon as Winter happens, I just want to eat all the carbs ever
preferably with cheese on them
Jessica: That's why I married you
Majestic: Thank you. Aw shucks
And realizing that those things are not. Like I can engage in Emotional Eating
without it being disordered now and that has been really positive for me
and I think that I'll never fully get rid of Emotional Eating
because everything is connected and honoring that is just really important
And the last thing would be Discovering the Satisfaction and Pleasure of Food
That's what being a Hungry Virgin is all about
Fuck, food is delicious
All kinds of food
Jessica: There will be family dinners of ours where the entire meal
we'll just celebrate how fucking delicious that meal is, what
went into creating that meal and that it was created with love
and teamwork and that it tastes fucking delicious
and then we talk about ways we could have made it better
and then we talk about what we'll eat later and we celebrate that and we
feel good about it and its not an issue
It feels unreal to be in a situation where I can be with people and eat
what I want and eat it how I want it and just be
stoked that this isn't a heavy situation for me
No pun intended ;)
But there is pleasure in food
Majestic: Yeah and we all have a fucked up relationship with food
Maybe that's a fucked up overstatement.
I'm not trying to homogenize everybody's experiences
but our relationships with food and our bodies are complicated
and this one way that maybe things can be easier or feel better
for some of you. So thank you for joining us on this journey
And I hope that it was informative and I hope that if people are
interested in this they'll go to get their own resources and start talking about it
Jessica: Or ask us questions, because we're here
Majestic: Yeah. Eating snickerdoodles
Jessica: Okay
Majestic: We love you!! Bye!
Majestic: Great.Ow my ass!
Jessica: (moans) Ow! My ass!