0:00:04.571,0:00:07.241 Majestic: Hey Hotties! I'm Majestic 0:00:07.241,0:00:08.742 Jessica: I'm Jessica 0:00:08.742,0:00:11.311 We're just having a Hungry Virginz tea party 0:00:11.311,0:00:16.383 with some snickerdoodles and uh, we were talking about 0:00:16.383,0:00:21.288 hungry virginity and you brought up Intuitive Eating and we 0:00:21.288,0:00:26.059 thought they were really interesting together and we just thought 0:00:26.059,0:00:30.631 we'd like invite you guys, you know. Here we are 0:00:30.631,0:00:37.004 Jessica: So maybe we should explain what Intuitive Eating is 0:00:37.004,0:00:40.173 for those viewers at home who are not aware of it 0:00:40.173,0:00:43.844 and Intuitive Eating.. oh, go for it 0:00:43.844,0:00:47.247 you want it, so you're eating it. 0:00:47.247,0:00:50.684 And that is Intuitive Eating. Really though 0:00:50.684,0:00:53.053 That worked out perfectly! 0:00:53.053,0:00:54.488 Majestic: That was so good and smart 0:00:54.488,0:00:58.992 Jessica: But Intuitive Eating is just like developing a really mindful 0:00:58.992,0:01:02.162 relationship with your body and its needs and its wants and 0:01:02.162,0:01:04.932 how to best take care of it is to trust it 0:01:04.932,0:01:13.373 and trusting it, first you have to get to know it and we're going to 0:01:13.373,0:01:18.445 Majestic: I'm going to mime it 0:01:18.445,0:01:20.280 I'm just getting to know my body 0:01:20.280,0:01:24.985 Jessica: Yeah, great. And so Intuitive Eating and Hungry Virginity 0:01:24.985,0:01:27.988 are pretty much, best friends 0:01:27.988,0:01:30.490 Majestic: yeah, because like being a Hungry Virgin is about 0:01:30.490,0:01:35.796 the celebration and reclamation of food and the journey of renegotiation 0:01:35.796,0:01:40.334 and also its really funny 0:01:40.334,0:01:44.671 Jessica: /Maybe we're going to outline the big points and just 0:01:44.671,0:01:51.578 as a note, a good resource for me is intuitiveeating.org 0:01:51.578,0:01:56.450 and it was more or less like a loose bible to me when I started 0:01:56.450,0:02:01.655 doing Intuitive Eating, which I have been doing for quite a few years 0:02:01.655,0:02:04.324 and a note from.. 0:02:04.324,0:02:08.362 Majestic: Also I didn't know about Intuitive Eating, but I'm really 0:02:08.362,0:02:11.832 excited for it and a lot of the things they talk about are really straight forwward 0:02:11.832,0:02:18.705 and totally like, principles of Hungry Virginity too and but also we 0:02:18.705,0:02:24.011 were talking about how like any kind of big framework like about dealing 0:02:24.011,0:02:30.684 with healthy eating or disordered eating is not going to work for everybody in all of the ways 0:02:30.684,0:02:35.956 I feel like it had been important to me to bring my own politics to Intuitive Eating 0:02:35.956,0:02:39.493 because not everything is going to work for everyone and their experience 0:02:39.493,0:02:45.432 with food or their history with food so you just have to make this work for you 0:02:45.432,0:02:48.168 and bring your own knowledge and experience to it 0:02:48.168,0:02:53.240 Jessica: Totally. So our big points are: 0:02:53.240,0:02:56.243 Reclamation and the Celebration of Food 0:02:56.243,0:03:00.681 Honoring Your Hunger and Making Peace With Food 0:03:00.681,0:03:02.582 Rejecting Diet Mentality 0:03:02.582,0:03:05.285 Challenging Food Police 0:03:05.285,0:03:10.624 Respecting Your Fullness 0:03:10.624,0:03:14.594 Discovering Pleasure and Satisfaction From Food 0:03:14.594,0:03:17.431 Respecting Your Hot Bod 0:03:17.431,0:03:20.967 Majestic: Doing a lot of that today 0:03:20.967,0:03:27.174 And also Honoring Your Feelings and Experiences Around Emotional Eating 0:03:27.174,0:03:29.476 We changed that last one 0:03:29.476,0:03:31.111 Jessica: and we didn't include some 0:03:31.111,0:03:34.548 Majestic: Yeah we didn't include some because we thought they were sort of 0:03:34.548,0:03:36.516 Jessica: Not for us 0:03:36.516,0:03:40.954 but we will link you underneath this video with all the important things 0:03:40.954,0:03:46.993 other rad fatties have said about Intuitive Eating and also the site 0:03:46.993,0:03:54.267 we got this from so if you choose to bring in those other ones into your lifestyle, you can do that 0:03:54.267,0:04:03.210 Majestic: So the first thing is, I guess we could just talk about honoring your hunger 0:04:03.210,0:04:07.280 I'm doing that right now. Do you want to talk about that? 0:04:07.280,0:04:10.617 Jessica: yes thank you. Honoring your hunger for me meant 0:04:10.617,0:04:18.692 understanding that I'm a rageful bitch, but a lot of that was tied to Hanger 0:04:18.692,0:04:27.768 and when you're living in this diet centric world where you're taught 0:04:27.768,0:04:33.373 to restrict and deny and do all these things that keep you hungry 0:04:33.373,0:04:42.449 because that hunger is supposed to like give you more moral standing 0:04:42.449,0:04:45.285 in the world and its supposed to make you a good person and show that you 0:04:45.285,0:04:49.189 have restraint and all these "great" ridiculous things when really 0:04:49.189,0:04:52.025 hunger hurts 0:04:52.025,0:04:54.728 Majestic: Hunger is something everyone experiences 0:04:54.728,0:04:59.466 Majestic: oh god oh god, we had some Hungry Virgin technical difficulties just now 0:04:59.466,0:05:01.034 Jessica: I hope we can put those two together 0:05:01.034,0:05:02.202 Majestic: We will be able to...hopefully 0:05:02.202,0:05:03.703 Jessica: Alright 0:05:03.703,0:05:04.938 Majestic: Come Hell or high water 0:05:04.938,0:05:06.072 Jessica: Okaaaayyy 0:05:06.072,0:05:06.973 Majestic: Wild horses couldn't stop me 0:05:06.973,0:05:09.042 Jessica: Alright well back on topic huh? 0:05:09.042,0:05:14.915 Majestic: Okay another thing that is important in all this, that I really want to address 0:05:14.915,0:05:20.787 in Challenging the Food Police is people like to tell people of all body types 0:05:20.787,0:05:22.656 what they should be putting in their bodies or what they shouldn't 0:05:22.656,0:05:25.392 be putting in their body or that the thing they're putting in their body is 0:05:25.392,0:05:28.628 going to make them fat or whatever and I think that its really important 0:05:28.628,0:05:31.898 to challenge those people and those systems. You know like 0:05:31.898,0:05:39.673 mass media and just realize that like is complicated when you're telling 0:05:39.673,0:05:42.909 someone what to put in their body that the things we put in our bodies are 0:05:42.909,0:05:49.049 complicated by class, our race, our cultural background, our eating habits, our 0:05:49.049,0:05:53.887 potential disordered eating. But also in general its super wack and not cool to 0:05:53.887,0:05:54.988 do that.. 0:05:54.988,0:05:56.056 Jessica: Yeah mind your own business 0:05:56.056,0:06:02.562 Jessica: Okay lets move on to respecting fullness which is like, a big thing 0:06:02.562,0:06:09.336 because your body knows when its had enough and sometimes 0:06:09.336,0:06:18.745 for us who have eyes that are bigger than our stomach, we want to keep eating 0:06:18.745,0:06:25.986 and we, though for me, because I also do this where I eat past fullness 0:06:25.986,0:06:34.160 because of how I was raised and that is a class thing for me 0:06:34.160,0:06:38.198 if you can't afford food and you don't know when you'll eat next 0:06:38.198,0:06:43.637 you finish everything even if you're full, you just eat it cus it's there 0:06:43.637,0:06:53.914 if you have a fridge, you don't need to eat it when you don't want to or can't 0:06:53.914,0:07:00.487 Majestic: I always do that too where I take so much more than I can eat 0:07:00.487,0:07:02.956 because like, I don't know I can never just eat as much as I want 0:07:02.956,0:07:04.891 Jessica: its okay honey 0:07:04.891,0:07:09.329 Majestic: Its really hard sometimes though 0:07:09.329,0:07:12.165 and uh, I will like have half a plate of food left and I totally grew up poor 0:07:12.165,0:07:15.335 and I'll do that thing where I'm like "oh my god" 0:07:15.335,0:07:21.241 but also part of my thing is that I don't have to finish food, that 0:07:21.241,0:07:25.378 is something I don't have to do now and no one can tell me to do that 0:07:25.378,0:07:30.317 no one can expect that of me and if I can save it, great 0:07:30.317,0:07:32.686 but I don't need to do that 0:07:32.686,0:07:39.893 Jessica: Totally. Also I don't know where this is on our list but 0:07:39.893,0:07:43.263 a lot of people, when I talk to them about Intuitive Eating think 0:07:43.263,0:07:48.468 "well Jessica what if I just like, never stop eating. What if that's a thing? 0:07:48.468,0:07:52.439 What if my body just never finds a full point?" 0:07:52.439,0:08:00.914 and that is a valid question because when I started Intuitive Eating 0:08:00.914,0:08:06.219 no small village or child or abandoned building was safe from me. 0:08:06.219,0:08:17.664 I ate everything in my path, and most of it was a potato based thing or cheese based thing 0:08:17.664,0:08:23.837 and just went buckwild on any dairy or potato that you put in front of me 0:08:23.837,0:08:28.975 I didn't eat a vegetable for like, I don't know how long. 0:08:28.975,0:08:34.714 And that was something I did. And that's a possibility for you as well 0:08:34.714,0:08:40.520 But there will be a point where you're like "you know what? I would like a vegetable now" 0:08:40.520,0:08:48.061 And then you learn to have a diverse diet and that is the light at the end of the tunnel 0:08:48.061,0:08:55.668 and that is the goal. To eat what your body needs and wants because 0:08:55.668,0:08:58.705 you were born with all the tools you need 0:08:58.705,0:09:07.247 and to also know that you will get to a point where you want diversity in your diet 0:09:07.247,0:09:12.852 because that is the resting place for a lot of people. But also not for a lot of people and 0:09:12.852,0:09:16.156 it that's not your resting point, don't shame yourself. 0:09:16.156,0:09:18.725 You're fine, everybody's fine 0:09:20.427,0:09:25.131 Majestic: And I think throughout this process its just really important to 0:09:25.131,0:09:27.634 remember to love yourself. Respect your body and have love for it 0:09:27.634,0:09:29.536 Jessica: And the process 0:09:29.536,0:09:33.039 Majestic: Recognize that this process is hard and have compassion for yourself 0:09:33.039,0:09:35.375 If you're still engaging in disordered eating, beating yourself up about it 0:09:35.375,0:09:37.977 and calling yourself names is just going to make it worse. 0:09:37.977,0:09:41.314 Listen to those internal narratives that you have and try to stop them 0:09:41.314,0:09:45.685 Be like, "No I love my body, I love myself and I'm doing the best that I can 0:09:45.685,0:09:49.189 and today was a hard day." That's really important to 0:09:49.189,0:09:54.661 Jessica: And that ties into Emotional Eating, which is a big big one for a lot 0:09:54.661,0:09:59.466 of people and there is a lot of varied opinions on Emotional Eating 0:09:59.466,0:10:03.703 and whether or not that is like a thing that you should get rid of your life 0:10:03.703,0:10:11.544 or not. My personal opinion is Emotional Eating is a fact of life and you can 0:10:11.544,0:10:16.983 totally get comfort from food at times. It will not solve 0:10:16.983,0:10:24.491 the root of the issue but it will sate you and it will give you some sense of comfort 0:10:24.491,0:10:26.893 That is why they call it Comfort Food 0:10:26.893,0:10:29.229 because there is reality to that 0:10:29.229,0:10:31.598 Majestic: I think that people use food for so many reasons. 0:10:31.598,0:10:33.500 To celebrate, when they're maybe feeling sad. 0:10:33.500,0:10:37.036 I know as soon as Winter happens, I just want to eat all the carbs ever 0:10:37.036,0:10:39.873 preferably with cheese on them 0:10:39.873,0:10:41.174 Jessica: That's why I married you 0:10:41.174,0:10:44.477 Majestic: Thank you. Aw shucks 0:10:44.477,0:10:49.816 And realizing that those things are not. Like I can engage in Emotional Eating 0:10:49.816,0:10:54.387 without it being disordered now and that has been really positive for me 0:10:54.387,0:10:57.390 and I think that I'll never fully get rid of Emotional Eating 0:10:57.390,0:11:02.128 because everything is connected and honoring that is just really important 0:11:02.128,0:11:07.233 And the last thing would be Discovering the Satisfaction and Pleasure of Food 0:11:07.233,0:11:09.302 That's what being a Hungry Virgin is all about 0:11:09.302,0:11:11.504 Fuck, food is delicious 0:11:11.504,0:11:13.339 All kinds of food 0:11:13.339,0:11:16.976 Jessica: There will be family dinners of ours where the entire meal 0:11:16.976,0:11:23.316 we'll just celebrate how fucking delicious that meal is, what 0:11:23.316,0:11:27.887 went into creating that meal and that it was created with love 0:11:27.887,0:11:32.625 and teamwork and that it tastes fucking delicious 0:11:32.625,0:11:34.994 and then we talk about ways we could have made it better 0:11:34.994,0:11:40.300 and then we talk about what we'll eat later and we celebrate that and we 0:11:40.300,0:11:46.973 feel good about it and its not an issue 0:11:46.973,0:11:53.313 It feels unreal to be in a situation where I can be with people and eat 0:11:53.313,0:11:56.549 what I want and eat it how I want it and just be 0:11:56.549,0:12:02.589 stoked that this isn't a heavy situation for me 0:12:02.589,0:12:06.025 No pun intended ;) 0:12:06.025,0:12:10.096 But there is pleasure in food 0:12:10.096,0:12:15.602 Majestic: Yeah and we all have a fucked up relationship with food 0:12:15.602,0:12:18.238 Maybe that's a fucked up overstatement. 0:12:18.238,0:12:21.741 I'm not trying to homogenize everybody's experiences 0:12:21.741,0:12:28.181 but our relationships with food and our bodies are complicated 0:12:28.181,0:12:32.118 and this one way that maybe things can be easier or feel better 0:12:32.118,0:12:36.923 for some of you. So thank you for joining us on this journey 0:12:36.923,0:12:40.159 And I hope that it was informative and I hope that if people are 0:12:40.159,0:12:43.763 interested in this they'll go to get their own resources and start talking about it 0:12:43.763,0:12:47.033 Jessica: Or ask us questions, because we're here 0:12:47.033,0:12:49.102 Majestic: Yeah. Eating snickerdoodles 0:12:49.102,0:12:50.103 Jessica: Okay 0:12:50.103,0:12:53.740 Majestic: We love you!! Bye! 0:12:53.740,0:12:56.175 Majestic: Great.Ow my ass! 0:12:56.175,9:59:59.000 Jessica: (moans) Ow! My ass!