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Judy and Sophie's Story - Helping Hands

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    [Piano music]
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    Judy: I've wasted weeks composing clever cover letters to you
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    describing the many reasons I need a monkey helper,
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    but you don't need to told how a trained monkey changes a life of an isolated wheelchair user.
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    Oh, I remember thinking, Oh, I know what it was,
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    I remembered thinking, sitting there in the office,
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    well of course that's what its like for most people,
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    but it won't be that bad for me.
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    It can't be that bad for me.
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    And it has been. Pretty much that bad.
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    George: Before we even got married, Jude had had some funny neurological kind of symptoms.
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    She had a numbness in her body that seemed odd.
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    Judy: We went on a very long walk in the Caribbean,
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    on Saint John, from the top of the mountain, all the way down to the beach.
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    The next day, I couldn't feel my legs at all.
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    I thought it was funny.
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    I remember saying to George: Hey George, can you beat that?! I can't feel my feet!
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    George: And... As everyone does when they're young
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    and have a twitch, they go: "well I hope that goes away quickly."
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    As it happened, very soon after we got married
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    she officially got diagnosed as having progressive MS
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    Judy: It was winter and George and I went out for a drive.
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    We went way out...
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    Way out into the field with black sky and a zillion stars
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    And, now, I don't think I've talked about this since then,
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    but I howled, because the doctor had made it sound like it turned out to be.
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    And so I howled and, and then after a certain time
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    I said, OK, that's enough. I can come home now.
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    George: Jude went from being a busy realtor and a runner
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    to slowly getting to the stage where she needed a cane.
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    I'm learning to accept that when you pass these markers, you're not going to see them again.
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    you've passed them forever.
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    This is a one way street.
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    And it's dawned on me in the last couple of years
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    that this is a fight that I cannot win.
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    Jude is gonna die of this disease
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    and there's not anything I can do about it.
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    I think the first time we heard about the monkey
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    was in a magazine article.
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    So in an idle moment she went on the internet
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    and looked up monkeys, helpers and came up with these people in Boston.
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    And the website said something about:
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    if you would like a monkey, send us an e-mail.
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    And I think in our minds we thought nothing would ever come of it.
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    And about three days later we got an e-mail back
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    Megan Talbert: Judy sent a letter initially that really did strike us as being really unique.
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    Really from the heart.
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    It made us laugh.
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    It made us want to know more about her.
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    Helping Hands has learned over the last 32 years what works
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    and how we can build a relationship
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    between a service animal and a recipient.
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    We've taken the time and the energy to build this process
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    because we know how important it is.
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    Woman with Monkey: Can you go fetch? Atta girl, Daisy! Atta Girl!
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    Megan Talbert: We all run around this world going a hundred miles an hour,
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    but the people that we help are adults
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    who have had that ability taken from them.
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    And to be able to give that gift back,
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    even if it's in the form of a six pound monkey helping,
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    that partnership that we have seen again and again,
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    that is what makes Helping Hands work.
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    George: Jude is immobile in her chair
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    and if she goes for the phone
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    and it slips out of her hands
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    and hits the floor, it's 18 inches away
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    and it might as well be 18 miles away.
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    So we went: "Wow, if this monkey could pick up the phone, that would be terrific.
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    Megan Talbert: One of the things that Judy was looking for was a monkey
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    that would be able to fetch objects off of the floor, off of a shelf.
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    Really what the monkeys learn over time is to anticipate their recipient's needs.
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    For example, something as simple as
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    walking into a dark room and flipping on a light switch is impossible for Judy.
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    Sophie's able to fill that void.
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    Judy: I had kind of a not much life.
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    And then Sophie came and it became,
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    that's what I wanted to do was hang out with that monkey.
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    I think I'm her prize person
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    when I go in the room she makes more fuss over me
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    and I love that!
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    George: She was sitting in Jude's lap the other day
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    and Jude was sort of mindlessly stroking her and stopped.
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    And Sophie reached out her small black hand and grabbed Jude's hand
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    and dragged it back because it was clear that she wasn't done being stroked.
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    Everybody lit up.
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    It was a great moment.
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    As it happened she's been with us for a year today.
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    It's her anniversary.
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    And I don't know how I could have gotten through
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    this year without her.
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    Megan Talbert: One of the things that's very important
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    to a lot of our recipients, is that their monkey doesn't see them as disabled.
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    They don't recognize the things that they're unable to do.
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    Their monkey sees their recipient as protector,
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    As alpha. And that's really important.
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    It's a really important gift the monkeys give to
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    somebody who has had so much taken away from them.
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    Judy: Some of my friends said "You got a monkey?!
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    What did you get a monkey for...What are you gonna do with a monkey?!"
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    I said: well, how have I lived so long without a monkey?
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    Is really the question.
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    I've come to find out I was right.
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    She's really cool.
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    [Guitar music]
Title:
Judy and Sophie's Story - Helping Hands
Description:

Judy met George while on a sailing trip in the Caribbean. They fell in love, married, and began an active life in Vermont. From the moment Judy discovered she had progressive multiple sclerosis, life for the couple began to change in ways they could have never predicted. By the summer of 2011, Judy had long lost her ability to walk and most of the motion in her upper body. George had become a full time caregiver. This is the story of how Sophie, a capuchin monkey, came to change both of their lives.

Produced by Cary Wolinsky
Directed and edited by Yari Wolinsky
www.trilliumstudios.com
vimeo.com/trilliumstudios

Music from Nine Inch Nails' "Ghosts I-IV" album.
For more information, check out: ghosts.nin.com/​main/​home

Helping Hands: Monkey Helpers for the Disabled is a national nonprofit serving quadriplegic and other people with severe spinal cord injuries or mobility-impairments by providing highly trained monkeys to assist with daily activities.

Through the generous support of donors and volunteers, their monkeys are placed at no cost with disabled people and their families.

For more information, please visit www.monkeyhelpers.org
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