Why we have too few women leaders
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0:01 - 0:05So for any of us in this room today,
let's start out by admitting we're lucky. -
0:05 - 0:08We don't live in the world
our mothers lived in, -
0:08 - 0:09our grandmothers lived in,
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0:09 - 0:12where career choices
for women were so limited. -
0:12 - 0:14And if you're in this room today,
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0:14 - 0:19most of us grew up in a world
where we have basic civil rights, -
0:19 - 0:23and amazingly, we still live in a world
where some women don't have them. -
0:23 - 0:26But all that aside,
we still have a problem, -
0:26 - 0:27and it's a real problem.
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0:27 - 0:29And the problem is this:
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0:29 - 0:33Women are not making it
to the top of any profession -
0:33 - 0:35anywhere in the world.
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0:35 - 0:38The numbers tell the story quite clearly.
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0:38 - 0:41190 heads of state --
nine are women. -
0:41 - 0:43Of all the people
in parliament in the world, -
0:43 - 0:4513 percent are women.
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0:46 - 0:49In the corporate sector, women at the top,
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0:49 - 0:51C-level jobs, board seats --
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0:51 - 0:54tops out at 15, 16 percent.
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0:54 - 0:57The numbers have not moved since 2002
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0:57 - 0:59and are going in the wrong direction.
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0:59 - 1:01And even in the non-profit world,
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1:01 - 1:05a world we sometimes think of
as being led by more women, -
1:05 - 1:07women at the top: 20 percent.
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1:08 - 1:09We also have another problem,
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1:09 - 1:12which is that women face harder choices
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1:12 - 1:15between professional success
and personal fulfillment. -
1:15 - 1:21A recent study in the U.S.
showed that, of married senior managers, -
1:21 - 1:23two-thirds of the married men had children
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1:23 - 1:26and only one-third
of the married women had children. -
1:27 - 1:29A couple of years ago, I was in New York,
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1:29 - 1:30and I was pitching a deal,
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1:30 - 1:34and I was in one of those fancy
New York private equity offices -
1:34 - 1:35you can picture.
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1:35 - 1:38And I'm in the meeting --
it's about a three-hour meeting -- -
1:38 - 1:41and two hours in,
there needs to be that bio break, -
1:41 - 1:43and everyone stands up,
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1:43 - 1:46and the partner running the meeting
starts looking really embarrassed. -
1:46 - 1:51And I realized he doesn't know
where the women's room is in his office. -
1:51 - 1:53So I start looking
around for moving boxes, -
1:53 - 1:55figuring they just moved in,
but I don't see any. -
1:55 - 1:58And so I said, "Did you just
move into this office?" -
1:59 - 2:01And he said, "No,
we've been here about a year." -
2:02 - 2:06And I said, "Are you telling me
that I am the only woman -
2:06 - 2:09to have pitched a deal
in this office in a year?" -
2:09 - 2:11And he looked at me, and he said,
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2:11 - 2:14"Yeah. Or maybe you're the only one
who had to go to the bathroom." -
2:14 - 2:17(Laughter)
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2:17 - 2:20So the question is,
how are we going to fix this? -
2:22 - 2:25How do we change these numbers at the top?
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2:25 - 2:27How do we make this different?
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2:28 - 2:30I want to start out by saying,
I talk about this -- -
2:30 - 2:33about keeping women in the workforce --
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2:33 - 2:36because I really think that's the answer.
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2:36 - 2:38In the high-income part of our workforce,
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2:38 - 2:40in the people who end up at the top --
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2:40 - 2:45Fortune 500 CEO jobs,
or the equivalent in other industries -- -
2:45 - 2:49the problem, I am convinced,
is that women are dropping out. -
2:49 - 2:51Now people talk about this a lot,
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2:51 - 2:54and they talk about things
like flextime and mentoring -
2:54 - 2:57and programs companies
should have to train women. -
2:57 - 2:58I want to talk about none of that today,
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2:58 - 3:00even though that's all really important.
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3:01 - 3:03Today I want to focus
on what we can do as individuals. -
3:04 - 3:06What are the messages
we need to tell ourselves? -
3:06 - 3:09What are the messages we tell
the women that work with and for us? -
3:09 - 3:11What are the messages
we tell our daughters? -
3:12 - 3:14Now, at the outset,
I want to be very clear -
3:14 - 3:16that this speech comes with no judgments.
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3:16 - 3:18I don't have the right answer.
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3:18 - 3:19I don't even have it for myself.
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3:20 - 3:23I left San Francisco,
where I live, on Monday, -
3:23 - 3:26and I was getting on the plane
for this conference. -
3:26 - 3:29And my daughter, who's three,
when I dropped her off at preschool, -
3:29 - 3:33did that whole hugging-the-leg, crying,
"Mommy, don't get on the plane" thing. -
3:33 - 3:35This is hard. I feel guilty sometimes.
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3:35 - 3:37I know no women,
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3:37 - 3:40whether they're at home
or whether they're in the workforce, -
3:40 - 3:41who don't feel that sometimes.
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3:41 - 3:44So I'm not saying
that staying in the workforce -
3:44 - 3:46is the right thing for everyone.
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3:46 - 3:49My talk today is about
what the messages are -
3:49 - 3:51if you do want to stay in the workforce,
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3:51 - 3:53and I think there are three.
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3:54 - 3:56One, sit at the table.
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3:56 - 3:58Two, make your partner a real partner.
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3:59 - 4:03And three, don't leave before you leave.
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4:04 - 4:05Number one: sit at the table.
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4:06 - 4:08Just a couple weeks ago at Facebook,
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4:08 - 4:10we hosted a very senior
government official, -
4:10 - 4:13and he came in to meet with senior execs
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4:13 - 4:15from around Silicon Valley.
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4:15 - 4:18And everyone kind of sat at the table.
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4:18 - 4:20He had these two women
who were traveling with him -
4:20 - 4:22pretty senior in his department,
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4:22 - 4:23and I kind of said to them,
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4:23 - 4:26"Sit at the table.
Come on, sit at the table," -
4:26 - 4:27and they sat on the side of the room.
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4:29 - 4:30When I was in college, my senior year,
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4:31 - 4:33I took a course called
European Intellectual History. -
4:33 - 4:35Don't you love that kind
of thing from college? -
4:35 - 4:37I wish I could do that now.
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4:37 - 4:39And I took it with my roommate, Carrie,
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4:39 - 4:42who was then a brilliant
literary student -- -
4:42 - 4:44and went on to be a brilliant
literary scholar -- -
4:44 - 4:46and my brother -- smart guy,
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4:46 - 4:48but a water-polo-playing pre-med,
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4:48 - 4:49who was a sophomore.
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4:49 - 4:51The three of us take this class together.
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4:52 - 4:56And then Carrie reads all the books
in the original Greek and Latin, -
4:56 - 4:57goes to all the lectures.
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4:57 - 5:00I read all the books in English
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5:00 - 5:01and go to most of the lectures.
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5:01 - 5:03My brother is kind of busy.
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5:03 - 5:07He reads one book of 12
and goes to a couple of lectures, -
5:07 - 5:10marches himself up to our room
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5:10 - 5:12a couple days before the exam
to get himself tutored. -
5:13 - 5:16The three of us go to the exam
together, and we sit down. -
5:16 - 5:18And we sit there for three hours --
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5:18 - 5:20and our little blue notebooks
-- yes, I'm that old. -
5:20 - 5:23We walk out, we look at each other,
and we say, "How did you do?" -
5:23 - 5:27And Carrie says, "Boy, I feel like
I didn't really draw out the main point -
5:27 - 5:28on the Hegelian dialectic."
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5:28 - 5:31And I say, "God, I really
wish I had really connected -
5:31 - 5:35John Locke's theory of property
with the philosophers that follow." -
5:35 - 5:36And my brother says,
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5:36 - 5:38"I got the top grade in the class."
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5:38 - 5:40(Laughter)
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5:40 - 5:42"You got the top grade in the class?
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5:42 - 5:44You don't know anything."
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5:44 - 5:45(Laughter)
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5:45 - 5:50The problem with these stories
is that they show what the data shows: -
5:50 - 5:53women systematically
underestimate their own abilities. -
5:53 - 5:55If you test men and women,
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5:55 - 5:59and you ask them questions
on totally objective criteria like GPAs, -
5:59 - 6:00men get it wrong slightly high,
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6:01 - 6:03and women get it wrong slightly low.
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6:03 - 6:06Women do not negotiate
for themselves in the workforce. -
6:06 - 6:08A study in the last two years
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6:08 - 6:11of people entering
the workforce out of college -
6:11 - 6:15showed that 57 percent
of boys entering, or men, I guess, -
6:15 - 6:17are negotiating their first salary,
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6:17 - 6:20and only seven percent of women.
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6:20 - 6:22And most importantly,
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6:22 - 6:25men attribute their success to themselves,
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6:25 - 6:28and women attribute it
to other external factors. -
6:28 - 6:30If you ask men why they did a good job,
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6:30 - 6:33they'll say, "I'm awesome.
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6:33 - 6:36Obviously. Why are you even asking?"
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6:36 - 6:38If you ask women why they did a good job,
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6:38 - 6:40what they'll say is someone helped them,
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6:40 - 6:42they got lucky, they worked really hard.
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6:43 - 6:44Why does this matter?
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6:44 - 6:46Boy, it matters a lot.
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6:46 - 6:49Because no one gets to the corner office
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6:49 - 6:52by sitting on the side, not at the table,
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6:52 - 6:54and no one gets the promotion
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6:54 - 6:56if they don't think
they deserve their success, -
6:56 - 6:59or they don't even understand
their own success. -
7:00 - 7:02I wish the answer were easy.
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7:02 - 7:04I wish I could go tell
all the young women I work for, -
7:04 - 7:05these fabulous women,
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7:05 - 7:08"Believe in yourself
and negotiate for yourself. -
7:08 - 7:09Own your own success."
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7:09 - 7:11I wish I could tell that to my daughter.
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7:12 - 7:14But it's not that simple.
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7:14 - 7:17Because what the data shows,
above all else, is one thing, -
7:18 - 7:22which is that success and likeability
are positively correlated for men -
7:22 - 7:24and negatively correlated for women.
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7:25 - 7:28And everyone's nodding,
because we all know this to be true. -
7:28 - 7:31There's a really good study
that shows this really well. -
7:31 - 7:33There's a famous Harvard
Business School study -
7:33 - 7:35on a woman named Heidi Roizen.
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7:35 - 7:39And she's an operator
in a company in Silicon Valley, -
7:39 - 7:41and she uses her contacts
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7:41 - 7:44to become a very successful
venture capitalist. -
7:44 - 7:46In 2002 -- not so long ago --
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7:46 - 7:48a professor who was then
at Columbia University -
7:48 - 7:51took that case
and made it [Howard] Roizen. -
7:51 - 7:55And he gave the case out, both of them,
to two groups of students. -
7:55 - 7:57He changed exactly one word:
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7:57 - 7:59"Heidi" to "Howard."
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7:59 - 8:02But that one word made
a really big difference. -
8:03 - 8:04He then surveyed the students,
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8:04 - 8:07and the good news was the students,
both men and women, -
8:07 - 8:09thought Heidi and Howard
were equally competent, -
8:09 - 8:11and that's good.
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8:11 - 8:14The bad news was
that everyone liked Howard. -
8:14 - 8:16He's a great guy.
You want to work for him. -
8:16 - 8:18You want to spend the day
fishing with him. -
8:18 - 8:19But Heidi? Not so sure.
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8:19 - 8:22She's a little out for herself.
She's a little political. -
8:22 - 8:24You're not sure
you'd want to work for her. -
8:25 - 8:27This is the complication.
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8:27 - 8:29We have to tell our daughters
and our colleagues, -
8:29 - 8:32we have to tell ourselves
to believe we got the A, -
8:32 - 8:35to reach for the promotion,
to sit at the table, -
8:35 - 8:37and we have to do it in a world
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8:37 - 8:40where, for them, there are sacrifices
they will make for that, -
8:40 - 8:43even though for their brothers,
there are not. -
8:44 - 8:47The saddest thing about all of this
is that it's really hard to remember this. -
8:48 - 8:51And I'm about to tell a story
which is truly embarrassing for me, -
8:51 - 8:52but I think important.
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8:52 - 8:55I gave this talk at Facebook
not so long ago -
8:55 - 8:58to about 100 employees,
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8:58 - 9:01and a couple hours later,
there was a young woman who works there -
9:01 - 9:04sitting outside my little desk,
and she wanted to talk to me. -
9:04 - 9:07I said, okay, and she sat down,
and we talked. -
9:07 - 9:09And she said, "I learned something today.
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9:09 - 9:11I learned that I need to keep my hand up."
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9:11 - 9:12"What do you mean?"
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9:12 - 9:14She said, "You're giving this talk,
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9:14 - 9:16and you said you would take
two more questions. -
9:16 - 9:18I had my hand up with many other people,
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9:18 - 9:20and you took two more questions.
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9:20 - 9:23I put my hand down, and I noticed
all the women did the same, -
9:23 - 9:25and then you took more questions,
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9:25 - 9:26only from the men."
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9:27 - 9:28And I thought to myself,
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9:28 - 9:31"Wow, if it's me -- who cares
about this, obviously -- -
9:31 - 9:33giving this talk --
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9:33 - 9:39and during this talk, I can't even notice
that the men's hands are still raised, -
9:39 - 9:41and the women's hands are still raised,
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9:41 - 9:42how good are we
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9:42 - 9:45as managers of our companies
and our organizations -
9:45 - 9:47at seeing that the men
are reaching for opportunities -
9:47 - 9:49more than women?"
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9:49 - 9:52We've got to get women
to sit at the table. -
9:52 - 9:53(Cheers)
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9:53 - 9:56(Applause)
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9:56 - 9:57Message number two:
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9:57 - 9:59Make your partner a real partner.
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9:59 - 10:02I've become convinced that we've made
more progress in the workforce -
10:02 - 10:04than we have in the home.
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10:04 - 10:06The data shows this very clearly.
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10:07 - 10:11If a woman and a man
work full-time and have a child, -
10:11 - 10:15the woman does twice the amount
of housework the man does, -
10:15 - 10:19and the woman does three times
the amount of childcare the man does. -
10:19 - 10:23So she's got three jobs
or two jobs, and he's got one. -
10:23 - 10:26Who do you think drops out
when someone needs to be home more? -
10:27 - 10:31The causes of this are really complicated,
and I don't have time to go into them. -
10:31 - 10:35And I don't think Sunday football-watching
and general laziness is the cause. -
10:35 - 10:37I think the cause is more complicated.
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10:37 - 10:38I think, as a society,
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10:38 - 10:41we put more pressure
on our boys to succeed -
10:41 - 10:42than we do on our girls.
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10:42 - 10:44I know men that stay home
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10:45 - 10:48and work in the home
to support wives with careers, -
10:48 - 10:49and it's hard.
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10:49 - 10:52When I go to the Mommy-and-Me stuff
and I see the father there, -
10:52 - 10:56I notice that the other mommies
don't play with him. -
10:56 - 10:58And that's a problem,
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10:58 - 11:01because we have to make it
as important a job, -
11:01 - 11:05because it's the hardest job
in the world to work inside the home, -
11:05 - 11:06for people of both genders,
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11:06 - 11:10if we're going to even things out and let
women stay in the workforce. -
11:10 - 11:11(Applause)
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11:11 - 11:13Studies show that households
with equal earning -
11:13 - 11:15and equal responsibility
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11:15 - 11:17also have half the divorce rate.
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11:17 - 11:21And if that wasn't good enough motivation
for everyone out there, -
11:21 - 11:22they also have more --
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11:22 - 11:24how shall I say this on this stage?
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11:24 - 11:27They know each other more
in the biblical sense as well. -
11:27 - 11:29(Cheers)
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11:30 - 11:31Message number three:
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11:31 - 11:33Don't leave before you leave.
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11:34 - 11:35I think there's a really deep irony
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11:35 - 11:37to the fact that actions
women are taking -- -
11:37 - 11:39and I see this all the time --
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11:39 - 11:42with the objective
of staying in the workforce -
11:42 - 11:45actually lead to their eventually leaving.
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11:45 - 11:46Here's what happens:
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11:46 - 11:49We're all busy. Everyone's busy.
A woman's busy. -
11:49 - 11:51And she starts thinking
about having a child, -
11:51 - 11:54and from the moment she starts
thinking about having a child, -
11:54 - 11:57she starts thinking
about making room for that child. -
11:57 - 12:00"How am I going to fit this
into everything else I'm doing?" -
12:00 - 12:03And literally from that moment,
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12:03 - 12:05she doesn't raise her hand anymore,
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12:05 - 12:09she doesn't look for a promotion,
she doesn't take on the new project, -
12:09 - 12:11she doesn't say, "Me. I want to do that."
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12:11 - 12:12She starts leaning back.
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12:12 - 12:14The problem is that --
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12:14 - 12:17let's say she got pregnant
that day, that day -- -
12:17 - 12:20nine months of pregnancy,
three months of maternity leave, -
12:20 - 12:22six months to catch your breath --
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12:22 - 12:24Fast-forward two years,
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12:24 - 12:26more often -- and as I've seen it --
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12:26 - 12:28women start thinking
about this way earlier -- -
12:28 - 12:30when they get engaged, or married,
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12:30 - 12:32when they start thinking
about having a child, -
12:32 - 12:34which can take a long time.
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12:34 - 12:36One woman came to see me about this.
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12:36 - 12:38She looked a little young.
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12:38 - 12:41And I said, "So are you and your husband
thinking about having a baby?" -
12:41 - 12:43And she said, "Oh no, I'm not married."
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12:43 - 12:44She didn't even have a boyfriend.
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12:44 - 12:45(Laughter)
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12:46 - 12:49I said, "You're thinking about this
just way too early." -
12:49 - 12:52But the point is that what happens
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12:52 - 12:55once you start
kind of quietly leaning back? -
12:56 - 12:57Everyone who's been through this --
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12:57 - 13:00and I'm here to tell you,
once you have a child at home, -
13:00 - 13:03your job better be really good to go back,
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13:03 - 13:05because it's hard to leave
that kid at home. -
13:05 - 13:07Your job needs to be challenging.
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13:07 - 13:08It needs to be rewarding.
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13:08 - 13:11You need to feel like you're
making a difference. -
13:11 - 13:14And if two years ago
you didn't take a promotion -
13:14 - 13:16and some guy next to you did,
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13:16 - 13:20if three years ago you stopped
looking for new opportunities, -
13:20 - 13:22you're going to be bored
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13:22 - 13:24because you should have kept
your foot on the gas pedal. -
13:25 - 13:28Don't leave before you leave.
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13:28 - 13:29Stay in.
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13:29 - 13:31Keep your foot on the gas pedal,
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13:31 - 13:36until the very day you need to leave
to take a break for a child -- -
13:36 - 13:37and then make your decisions.
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13:38 - 13:40Don't make decisions too far in advance,
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13:40 - 13:43particularly ones you're not
even conscious you're making. -
13:45 - 13:46My generation really, sadly,
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13:46 - 13:49is not going to change
the numbers at the top. -
13:49 - 13:50They're just not moving.
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13:50 - 13:54We are not going to get
to where 50 percent of the population -- -
13:54 - 13:56in my generation, there will not
be 50 percent of [women] -
13:56 - 13:58at the top of any industry.
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13:59 - 14:01But I'm hopeful that future
generations can. -
14:02 - 14:07I think a world where half
of our countries and our companies -
14:07 - 14:09were run by women,
would be a better world. -
14:09 - 14:13It's not just because people would know
where the women's bathrooms are, -
14:13 - 14:15even though that would be very helpful.
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14:16 - 14:17I think it would be a better world.
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14:18 - 14:20I have two children.
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14:20 - 14:22I have a five-year-old son
and a two-year-old daughter. -
14:23 - 14:24I want my son to have a choice
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14:24 - 14:27to contribute fully
in the workforce or at home, -
14:27 - 14:31and I want my daughter
to have the choice to not just succeed, -
14:31 - 14:34but to be liked for her accomplishments.
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14:34 - 14:35Thank you.
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14:35 - 14:37(Applause)
- Title:
- Why we have too few women leaders
- Speaker:
- Sheryl Sandberg
- Description:
-
Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg looks at why a smaller percentage of women than men reach the top of their professions -- and offers 3 powerful pieces of advice to women aiming for the C-suite.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 14:37
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The English transcript was updated on 3/26/2015.