1 00:00:01,258 --> 00:00:05,425 let's looking in on america's perfect family 2 00:00:05,425 --> 00:00:09,808 The Johngers I just look at their amazing life 3 00:00:09,808 --> 00:00:12,920 safe secure jobs, social respect 4 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:15,912 and admiration?, a growing family, ??? 5 00:00:15,912 --> 00:00:20,925 humanal cars and a good made kitchen 6 00:00:20,925 --> 00:00:25,076 yes the Johngers are living proof that if we are willing 7 00:00:25,076 --> 00:00:28,195 to follow the same trusted paths 8 00:00:28,195 --> 00:00:31,790 what?! how do we ever by end to that myth 9 00:00:31,790 --> 00:00:34,132 since we have been young we have 10 00:00:34,132 --> 00:00:37,028 been indacturated to follow a prescribe formuler 11 00:00:37,028 --> 00:00:38,257 have to get degree 12 00:00:38,257 --> 00:00:39,541 to get the best job that you can 13 00:00:39,541 --> 00:00:40,756 the white picked fans 14 00:00:40,756 --> 00:00:41,889 the big screen tv 15 00:00:41,889 --> 00:00:42,876 2.5 kids 16 00:00:42,876 --> 00:00:45,436 the bape, the boat, the box, the job, the 6 figures 17 00:00:45,436 --> 00:00:49,940 work for 40-50 years and then retire 18 00:00:49,940 --> 00:00:52,668 I did all of the things that were expected of me 19 00:00:52,668 --> 00:00:56,632 that the expends my dreams 20 00:00:56,632 --> 00:00:58,139 every monday i would walk on the beach 21 00:00:58,139 --> 00:00:59,309 and put my ipod in 22 00:00:59,309 --> 00:01:02,140 and just wonder what was wrong with me 23 00:01:02,140 --> 00:01:04,554 I got it like I look up at the beach 24 00:01:04,554 --> 00:01:08,202 i have a great job, all this money, I'm so lucky right now 25 00:01:08,202 --> 00:01:10,675 and yet I'm freaking miserable 26 00:01:10,675 --> 00:01:12,791 and i was on a run 3 to 4 days a week 27 00:01:12,791 --> 00:01:16,719 and i just remember thinking I didn't sign up to be a single parent 28 00:01:16,719 --> 00:01:21,258 every single day i would come home and i would tell about --- like 29 00:01:21,258 --> 00:01:25,957 I cannot do this anymore, I cannot do this, I can't do this anymore 30 00:01:25,957 --> 00:01:29,208 you climb the ladder and you get to the top and realise you haven't 31 00:01:29,208 --> 00:01:30,826 against the wrong wall 32 00:01:30,826 --> 00:01:32,857 i didn't even know what the right wall was 33 00:01:32,857 --> 00:01:39,801 and I'm 32 and I feel like that I should have that figured out 34 00:01:39,801 --> 00:01:44,659 people do this kind of quiet desperation they wish things were different 35 00:01:44,659 --> 00:01:49,320 they need life to shake them and they wake the * up 36 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,558 this is not the way you have got to live 37 00:01:51,558 --> 00:02:02,343 there is something better out there 38 00:02:02,343 --> 00:02:06,155 it's only when you start making choices for yourself 39 00:02:06,155 --> 00:02:08,987 that you have been lived your own dream 40 00:02:08,987 --> 00:02:16,369 instead of the american dream 41 00:02:16,369 --> 00:02:24,707 I ---- but I would not know what it would be like if this happenned 42 00:02:24,707 --> 00:02:34,290 i don't know what's around the corner for me 43 00:02:34,290 --> 99:59:59,999 i have never been ?? and not knowing