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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.56,0:00:03.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My first word was "squirrel", I think.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.55,0:00:04.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My next word was Mom,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.82,0:00:06.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the word after that was "disability".
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.85,0:00:10.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was a word that I needed to be able to articulate
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.29,0:00:12.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something that was going on with my body.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.50,0:00:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I personally don't actually like the word "disability"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.54,0:00:17.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to describe what's going on with me
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.66,0:00:19.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's not,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.37,0:00:21.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to me it's not specific enough, I guess.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.88,0:00:26.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Cuz it just sounds like my ability is dissed [LAUGHING].
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.06,0:00:29.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The problem with the word "disability"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.54,0:00:33.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that it has a negative connotation from the get-go.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.68,0:00:36.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It automatically implies that there's something
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.10,0:00:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that somebody can't,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.70,0:00:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or something that somebody isn't,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.28,0:00:43.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that becomes defining,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.59,0:00:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a foundational definition of the way somebody thinks of somebody.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.43,0:00:51.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[PIANO MUSIC...]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.81,0:00:54.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So for me,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.91,0:00:57.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was injured in the part of the spinal cord
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.12,0:01:03.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is exactly right in the area where sexual ennervation takes place.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.08,0:01:08.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I had to find out for myself what all of this meant.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.15,0:01:13.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that queer sex, being able to have queer sex,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.31,0:01:15.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and opening myself up to queer sex
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.31,0:01:16.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and feeling good about it
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.86,0:01:21.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has been a lot about what it has taught me about how to have sex
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.48,0:01:24.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,both with a different body and with different bodies,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.58,0:01:28.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you already are thinking about
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.50,0:01:30.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,new ways that you do things,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.58,0:01:33.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're already thinking outside of this like normative paradigm
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.68,0:01:37.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of like, missionary position and "this is how people have sex".
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.93,0:01:43.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It became more and more about just me and my personal growth
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.18,0:01:44.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as an individual in a relationship,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.82,0:01:48.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and less and less about my body and my disability.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.44,0:01:55.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Having sex in my wheelchair is RAD!